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4 Effective Parenting Styles You Need to Know

Diana Yacobi September 18, 2018

Find out if you are using these effective parenting styles

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Parents raise their children in different ways. Parenting styles usually differ in four areas: communication, discipline style, expectations, and nurturance. Diana Baumrind, a developmental psychologist, identified in her 1967 research the different parenting styles—authoritative parenting, authoritarian parenting, and permissive parenting.

 

Baumrind’s research on parenting styles led to the discovery of a fourth parenting style called uninvolved by Maccoby and Martin in 1983.

 

Here’s a brief overview of each of these four parenting styles.

 

Authoritative

 

Despite being demanding, retaining control, and in authority, these parents are more communicative and affectionate than their authoritarian counterparts. They are responsive and assertive without being restrictive or intrusive. Authoritative parents strike the right balance between their wish to be listened to and the child’s wish for independence. Children of such parents are often found to be socially responsible, cooperative while being assertive, and self-regulated as well.

 

Authoritarian

 

Being extremely strict and controlling, along with a strong need for obedience and a rigid sense of justice, parents following this parenting style are often considered disciplinarians. These parents have high expectations with restricted flexibility, a strict discipline style (where punishments are common, rules aren’t typically explained, and little negotiation is possible), and one-way communication (parent to child) which usually make them less nurturing.

 

Permissive

 

Often called indulgent parenting, this style is characterized by parents mostly allowing their children to do whatever they want with limited guidance. With open communication, minimal or no expectations, and limited or no rules, these parents tend to be nurturing and affectionate. They tend to become friends with their children rather than parents.

Uninvolved

 

These parents perhaps receive the most flak when people talk about “what are the different parenting styles used by families?” Uninvolved parents have no or fewer expectations from their children, have limited communication with them, and offer them little or no nurturing at all. These parents demand almost nothing and even give back almost nothing to their children. At its worst, this style of parenting can be on the borderlines of neglect.

 

These parenting styles can help guardians reflect on what style they have been using and if they need to change it for the better or not. Psychologists recommend that parents should be warm and demand high standards from kids. Authoritative parenting has been reported to be consistently linked to positive outcomes in studies.

 

Which among these parenting styles do you think is best for children? Let me know in the comments section below. You can also connect with me via my Facebook, Twitter, and Goodreads profiles. Take a look at my blog to find more interesting parenting pieces to read on.

 

References

 

Rosenthal, Maryann. 2009. “The 4 Parenting Styles: What Works And What Doesn’t.” The Attached Family, August 4. Accessed June 6, 2018. http://theattachedfamily.com/membersonly/?p=2151.

 

Bright Horizons. “What is my parenting style? Four types of parenting.” Accessed June 7, 2018. https://www.brighthorizons.com/family-resources/e-family-news/parenting-style-four-types-of-parenting.

 

ParentingForBrain.com. “4 Parenting Styles – Characteristics And Effects [Infographic].” Accessed June 6, 2018. https://www.parentingforbrain.com/4-baumrind-parenting-styles/.

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