What Does Parental Discipline Entail?

Diana Yacobi November 13, 2018

Effective parental discipline techniques

parental discipline techniques

Parenting is a tough task and it becomes more challenging when parents have to decide on which parental discipline techniques would be the best for them and their child. For most parents, disciplining children is all about spanking and punishing them. But such rigid, negative parental discipline can instill fear in the child and even make him or her resort to a more unruly and distrustful behavior. This doesn’t mean there should be lack of parental discipline. Instead, parents should opt for positive discipline techniques that are more effective than punishment or rebuke. Positive discipline is one that teaches children values, self-control, and self-direction, ways to respect elders, how to care for and understand others, feel safe and secure, develop a sense of responsibility, and learn how to be happy.

Here are some effective positive parental discipline techniques that could help parents:

  • Express love and respect the basis. The foundations of effective discipline is love and respect. Parents should create a loving, safe environment for their child, while being strict about bad behavior. It’s important that the child learns to respect the parent’s authority as well as the rights of others. However, parents should steer clear of harsh discipline like humiliation (which may involve shouting, verbal abuse, or name calling) and applying disciplinary techniques inconsistently as that won’t help the child respect his or her parents. Instead, discipline should be applied in a fair, firm, consistent, and reasonable way, with mutual respect. The aim should be to make the child feel safe, help him or her learn self-discipline, and encourage the development of an internal sense of control and responsibility, together with a healthy conscience.
  • Teach how to express emotions. A majority of kids act out because they fail to express their emotions—anger, boredom, fear, happiness, or simply not understanding what’s happening. Parents may use emotional charts, pictures, or videos to help the child express his or her feelings without misbehaving or throwing temper tantrums.
  • Play detectives. Circumstances (illness, fatigue, hunger, or change in diet/daily routine/medications) or people (an adult or children in proximity who are seen as a danger) may cause the child to throw tantrums or display behavioral outbursts. Playing the detective to find the reasons and taking steps to avoid such circumstances or people is another way of ensuring positive parental roles in discipline.


Can you think of other positive parental discipline techniques? Share them with me in the comments section below. Let the conversation flow by reaching me through my Facebook, Twitter, and Goodreads profiles. Remember to visit my blog for some more interesting posts on the topic.



Dr. Nieman, Peter, and Dr. Sarah Shea. “Effective discipline for children.” NCBI. January 2004.

Weingarten, Kaila. “8 Positive Discipline Techniques Every Parent Should Know.” A Fine Parent.

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